Every Effort is Designed to Bring About Positive ChangeWe work from the inside-out. Other schools work from the outside-in, focusing on external causes and psychology. We work at the heart first. We believe that spiritual growth opens the doors of positive emotional growth. We support this belief through mentoring and daily spiritual encouragement. Our emphasis is to turn boys into young men that truly love and respect others.
Who We Work WithBoys entering our program may be defiant and rebellious, lazy or unmotivated (especially in school), withdrawn, or angry. Many of them blame everyone else for things, they think they know it all, and they have no accountability. We work with boys with ADD, ADHD, ODD, high-functioning Asperger’s syndrome, or mild bipolar symptoms. We have found that teens will turn to negative behavior and negative peers, looking for acceptance, because they are struggling in their current atmosphere. The longer a parent waits to intervene, the more things their teen may be caught up in. Before enrolling their sons here. most parents have tried counseling, short-term programs, hospital stays, or other forms of inpatient or outpatient treatment, with no lasting effect. If your son refuses the idea of change in behavior, interventions away from home such as a residential program like Agapé might be the best long-term approach.
Length of Stay and Level SystemWe require a 12-month commitment for students entering the program. It is a proven fact that change takes that long to become a part of the boy’s life and habits. Any less than a year and most boys will go back to old bad behaviors within two years of leaving any such program. There are no short-term fixes with lasting outcomes. We teach the boys throughout their stay that poor choices affect oneself and others. When we encounter issues with negative behavior, we typically rescind privileges for a time. Agapé is more privilege based than consequence based. Loss of privileges is a big deal here. Boys are promoted through a level system during their stay at Agapé Boarding School, earning privileges and gaining responsibilities as they progress. Our level system has nine stages after the Orientation stage:
- Level 0: Orientation – An introductory level, used if a student refuses instruction, is fighting, etc.
- Level 1: New Student – Most students start at this level and are guided by a trusted student in a buddy system.
- Level 2: Student has completed initial assignments and continues to be guided by a trusted student.
- Level 3: Student has continued to stay on task with academics and behavior. He no longer has a student guide and can participate in some outdoor activities. He begins work responsibilities and chores, which continue through level 8.
- Level 4: Student has earned talking privileges with other students. He can participate in all outdoor activities.
- Level 5: Student gains access to game room and participates in projects in the community.
- Level 6: Student is allowed to participate in off-campus activities, when they occur (occasionally).
- Levels 7-8: Leadership mentoring
- Level 9: Student has earned ultimate trust and privileges.