Helping Boys with Reactive Attachment Disorder or Suffering Detachment Due to an Early Childhood Adoption
We can help your son if he suffers from Reactive Attachment Disorder (or RAD), a rare but serious condition in which he has been unable to form a healthy emotional attachment with mother (or primary caregiver). RAD is often the result of a separation very early in life, from a mother or family. Though adopted by a caring family, he may have to struggle to establish any close relationships, and that all comes to the forefront in the teen years. Children with attachment disorders or other attachment problems have difficulty connecting to others and managing their own emotions. This results in a lack of trust and self-worth, a fear of getting close to anyone, anger, and a need to be in control. A boy with an attachment disorder feels unsafe and alone.
There are two types of RAD (sometimes also known as Radical Attachment Disorder). One may find him aloof, emotionally indifferent, self-conscious or introverted. On the other hand, the other kind may cause him to be unsuitably familiar or affectionate toward total strangers in an unhealthy way
Common signs and symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
- An aversion to touch and physical affection. Children with reactive attachment disorder often flinch, laugh, or even say “Ouch” when touched. Rather than producing positive feelings, touch and affection are perceived as a threat.
- Control issues. Most children with reactive attachment disorder go to great lengths to remain in control and avoid feeling helpless. They are often disobedient, defiant, and argumentative.
- Anger problems. Anger may be expressed directly, in tantrums or acting out, or through manipulative, passive-aggressive behavior. Children with reactive attachment disorder may hide their anger in socially acceptable actions, like giving a high five that hurts or hugging someone too hard.
- Difficulty showing genuine care and affection. For example, children with reactive attachment disorder may act inappropriately affectionate with strangers while displaying little or no affection towards their parents.
- An underdeveloped conscience. Children with reactive attachment disorder may act like they don’t have a conscience and fail to show guilt, regret, or remorse after behaving badly.
Agapé Boarding School Can Help Your Adopted Son with Reactive Attachment Disorder
A secure and nurturing environment (such as what you’ll find at Agapé) is critical in order for your boy to learn to create healthy connections. Family therapy may be vitally important in his treatment of Reactive Attachment Disorder, encouraging your interaction with him. By teaching skills to help, he can steer clear of developing rising social and behavioral issues later in life, and rather go on to enjoy healthy relationships with you and with others.
What Makes Agapé Boarding School the Right Place for Teens Who Have Been Adopted
Agapé specializes in counseling and mentoring troubled boys who struggle with authority, are defiant and angry, unmotivated or withdrawn, been swayed into misbehavior or negatively influenced by their peers, or are experimenting with life-threatening activities. Agapé works with quite a large number of boys with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).
Our fully accredited school with sprawling campus, first-class sports facilities and hundreds of animals is designed especially for adolescent boys 12-17 who’ve gotten off track; we only work with difficult boys so we have the experience to handle your son.
Agapé is Greek for “God’s unconditional love” – and that’s what we’ll show to your boy who is dealing with behavior issues that can threaten his future. At Agapé, our approach is loving, but firm, with 24/7 watchful care – what most troubled boys need. With God’s daily love, he’ll see his spiritual growth open the door to positive emotional growth.
We are here to transform your son into a respectful and respectable young man with renewed relationships and a new purpose in life, prepared to lead a productive life in whatever career path he chooses. We will give him the work ethic and relational skills to get his life back on the right track and be a productive member of society.